What to Do When Your Partner Keeps Lying to You Sweet baby jeebus, the number of lies I was told both before and after D-Day is probably greater than the number of stars in the universe. After D-Day, I often KNEW he was lying. It was totally obvious. But he would insist that he was telling …
Meet Brittany Coulsting, LCMHC: Real Talk, Real Tools, Real Healing Finding a therapist is harder than it looks. The bios all start to blur together (warm, compassionate, client-centered, blah blah blah) and it’s genuinely difficult to figure out who’s actually going to be a good fit for you and what you’re carrying. You keep seeing …
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Why WHO Your Therapist Is Matters More Than Anything Else So you’ve decided to try therapy for the first time, or maybe for the zillionth time. Now you’re staring at a list of therapist profiles trying to figure out who to pick, and you’re probably basing it on… what, exactly? Who has the most letters …
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Why Do I Still Love My Husband After He Cheated? Disclaimer: This is written from the perspective of a wife who has been cheated on by her husband. But all genders and flavors of people can cheat/get cheated on. Substitute the pronouns that make sense for your situation as needed. So your partner cheated on …
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Timeout Bingo: The Cure for Stonewalling in a Relationship Stonewalling in a relationship is so damaging that the Gottmans (the folks who can predict divorce with 94% accuracy) labeled it one of the four horsemen of the apocalypse. It will literally trample all over your relationship until it’s just a bloody blob of pain and exhaustion. So …
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Quarterly Estimated Tax Payment Calculator Taxes are complex. You know what else is complex? Being a therapist. You simultaneously track a client’s history, the systems bearing down on them, your own countertransference, and the actual words coming out of their mouth, AND THEN moosh all of it together (scientific term) to spot patterns, pick interventions, …
Meet Shaniya Ewing, LCMHCA: The Affirming, No-BS Therapist Your Nervous System Has Been Waiting For There’s a particular kind of tired that comes from spending years managing how you show up in the world. Carefully calibrating how much emotion is “acceptable,” shrinking yourself to fit into spaces that were never really built for you, white-knuckling …
Betrayal Trauma FAQ: (Mostly) Everything You Ever Wanted to Know I would love to distill everything you ever wanted to understand about betrayal trauma and recovery into this one handy-dandy article, but that’s impossible. One day I’ll write a book. In the meantime, these are my semi-short answers to the questions I’m asked most. If you’ve …
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How to Find a Therapist in North Carolina Who Doesn’t Suck So you’ve decided to find a new therapist in North Carolina. Maybe a friend finally convinced you, maybe you Googled your symptoms at 2am and scared yourself, or maybe you’ve just hit a wall and realized that white-knuckling it alone isn’t the vibe anymore. …
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How to Stop Intrusive Thoughts About My Partner Cheating It’s super common to have intrusive thoughts after you discover that your partner has cheated. You may find yourself obsessing over details that you don’t really want to know about, but you just can’t stop yourself. It’s like you’re on that horrible Gravitron ride at the …
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